As a third culture kid myself, this book means a lot to me, as it beautifully captures and explains the experience of belonging to more than just one place and culture.
Told in the first person, this charmingly illustrated children’s book is essentially the story of author Rashmi Sirdeshpande and her family. Her parents emigrated from Goa, India, to work as doctors in the United Kingdom. Some of the locals were lovely and welcoming, while others were much less so. As she and her younger brother were born and grew up, they would join their parents in traveling back to India to visit family, even as they had otherwise British upbringings.
Sometimes, she would encounter the questions of what she is or where she’s (really) from. These are, ofc, loaded questions, often asked by people who want to categorize you as “other”. The answer is far more complicated than the querents usually expect, too, leading to confusion on all sides. FWIW, I think the best way to ask about a person’s ethnicity or culture is to ask “Are you [nationality]?” because that shows an actual interest in the world around you, and a familiarity with the wider world. That said, I’ll never forget the time some Asian guy walked up to me, all smiles, and asked, “Are you Filipina?” When I replied in the negative, his face dropped into an expression of disgust as he stomped off. Lol, sorry, bro.








